Present or Perfect?
Would you rather be a perfect parent or a present parent?? This is a question that’s kept going through my mind as I started listening to the audiobook “Present Over Perfect” by Shauna Niequist.
I feel like a lot of parents strive to be the perfect parent. They get their kids involved in all the sports, the go on awesome vacations, they get them the coolest toys, etc. and there’s nothing wrong with that at all. But when that begins to take place of actually being present with you kid(s), that’s when we need to take a step back.
In the book, the author talks about how her and her husband where playing with there son when they asked him what he wanted more of. More vacations, more cool toys, etc. His reply, more times like this. More time just simply spending time with his mom and dad playing. Nothing fancy, nothing exciting.
As a mom of a now six month old, I’m starting to think of different activities that I can do now and in the future that will fill Everly’s day with fun and learning. But after hearing what the author’s son said, I’ve changed my perspective on this. Yes, I’ll still have fun activities for Everly to do, but our day won’t be centered around that. Simply just being and spending time with Everly, whether that be sitting on the front porch watching the world go by, cooking in the kitchen, reading stories or playing, is what’s most important. I want to create special memories with my baby girl. When she’s older, I want her to remember that her mama may not have been perfect, but she was present. She was there for activity filled days and the days where nothing happened at all. I want her to remember a mama that paid attention to her while she played and not a mama that had her attention on what was on her phone.
Will I always be perfectly present for Everly? No. But I do have a Heavenly Father that is and has been perfect and present every day of my life. On the days I fail, Everly will have a Heavenly Father that will never fail her.